Our advice for gently trying out BDSM

Popularized by the 50 Shades of Gray saga, BDSM is a term that encompasses a diversity of practices as well as a philosophy . The acronym stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. Behind these heavy terms of pejorative connotation are in fact disciplines to explore one's pleasure and one's connection to the other . Whether you're looking for something new or just curious, Powerful gives you its best advice for trying out BDSM gently.

What is BDSM?

Oscar Wilde is said to have said, “ It's all about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. »

And yes, authority dynamics are all around us. They hide within the hierarchy at work, social codes, in his family and in his couple.

Contrary to popular belief, SM practices do not have pain in common, but the power play between partners .

The sadomasochistic philosophy raises awareness of these dynamics that are ignored in the rest of our daily lives. It creates a healthy space to subvert power relations by putting consent at the center of the interaction.

By the way, did you know that the practice doesn't always involve intercourse? It's much larger than that. ✨

Exploring one's pleasure means understanding one's identity, one's limits, and finding one's own power along the way. By offering an approach outside of traditional sexuality, the world of BDSM not only offers us new ways to enjoy, but also a path to greater empowerment.

Start with BDSM soft

If you want to spice up your relationship with your partner, we recommend that you take it step by step . SM practices are a bit like entering the ocean in the middle of a heat wave, you have to wet your neck before taking the dive. 🤿

BDSM is an umbrella term that encompasses a wide range of practices. Some are more dangerous than others and require real know-how. We therefore advise against string games, practices around breathing and homemade objects.

Need inspiration to get started?

• blindfold
• bound wrists and ankles
  PS: never with metal handcuffs
• role play and scenario
• erotic spanking
• orgasm control
• hot/cold with candle wax and ice cubes

Take the time to see what you like , to find out before embarking on more complex practices.

Safety first

The key to a safe practice is transparent and clear communication before, during and after a BDSM "scene" . Sharing what gives us pleasure as well as what we do not accept is essential to gently try BDSM.

Respect the boundaries you set with your partner and honor theirs as well. Do not let yourself be carried away by the inspiration of the moment with gestures or objects that have not been discussed beforehand. ✔️

If you have a brilliant idea in the heat of the moment, keep it in mind for a next sulphurous appointment. Your partner must absolutely give their clear and informed consent.

To guarantee security throughout your SM encounter, you can agree on a safe word . It's a keyword that is out of the ordinary enough to be understood as a signal. Terms such as "stop" or "stop" are not relevant enough, as they may fit in the context of a role-playing game.

“Trampoline”, “peach” or “monstera” are examples of very effective security codes. We trust you to find the most improbable terms! 😉

Thinking about aftercare

The aftercare is a moment of care and comfort for the partners after a BDSM session. It is a privileged interlude for hugs, open communication like silence. ☕

In no case do we go from a daily SM practice without a decompression chamber . As with the dead man's pose at the end of a yoga class, you have to give the tension time to come down.

As with the concept of consent, present much earlier in SM practices than in traditional so-called vanilla sexuality, aftercare would benefit from being generalized to all types of relationships. 🙌

Who doesn't want a cocooning moment after the roller coaster under the sheets?

Practiced in a healthy environment with a trusted partner, BDSM has nothing to do with a crazy world. On the contrary, it is an invitation to explore one's pleasure and to get to know one another better. To go further together, here are our tips to ignite your sex life. 🔥