Clitoral orgasm: reclaiming an organ that has been taboo for too long
The female orgasm is still shrouded in mystery today, but one thing is certain: the clitoris plays a central role in ultimate pleasure . In this article, we decided to shed light on this organ that has remained in the shadows for too long. Here is a complete guide that traces the history of the clitoris, busts a few myths and shares our best advice for best stimulating the clitoris. Let's go and reclaim the seat of our pleasure!
Discovery and anatomy of the clitoris
In 2017, only one in eight biology textbooks for fourth-grade students addressed the deep structure of the female organ. An anecdote that reflects the entire history of this orgasm intended for female sexual pleasure .
The history of the clitoris is a game of hide-and-seek with the injunction to procreation. We dwell on it during Antiquity when we think that it helps to make children then it gradually falls into oblivion. 🏺
Then, during the Renaissance, the practice of dissection changed our view of the female organ. Around the 1550s, the Italian anatomist Matteo Realdo Colombo was the first to describe the clitoris as the "seat of female pleasure." In his work De re anatomica, he obviously compares it to the male member because the glans has the ability to harden.
Between the 18th and 19th centuries, the clitoris saw its reputation threatened. Once considered crucial for female pleasure, it became an instrument of sexual sin , particularly with the advent of the war against masturbation.
Having a clitoral orgasm would be a sign of immaturity , or even sexual deviance. Come on, okay. 🙃
Then, towards the end of the 1980s, our savior, Australian urologist Helen O'Connell, took the first complete x-ray of the clitoris . She revealed both its importance and its complexity. Queen Helen reminded us that the clitoris is much more than we thought, with its bulbs and its 10 centimeters of length! 🙃
Focus on Freud: the number 1 enemy of female sexuality
We cannot talk about orgasm and the clitoris without addressing the issue of female "frigidity."
Popularized by Freud, this would be a real psychological problem. This preconceived idea is so widespread in our way of approaching sexuality that it has become a judgment on the value of a woman and her femininity.
Although anorgasmia exists, it is treated as a medical condition and not a value judgment.
Freud's theory contributed to this pressure to orgasm by suggesting that it was a position of inferiority in which Freud himself placed women. 🙄
The father of psychoanalysis managed to make people believe that the inability to achieve vaginal orgasm was an illness. For him, women are jealous of men because the size of their clitoris is small compared to the penis. Clitoral orgasm is proof of immaturity and is the sexual pleasure of the little girl. An extraordinary feat when you know that only one in five women manages to achieve orgasm during vaginal penetration without clitoral stimulation.
Female sex is complex and personal. It's time for us to free ourselves from the dusty taboos about the clitoris to make it the best ally of our pleasure. 💪
The Clitoral Orgasm vs. Vaginal Orgasm Myth
How to stimulate your clitoris?
Excite the clitoris step by step
Start with the erogenous zones
The erogenous parts of your body are those that give you pleasure when you touch them. So, to excite your clitoris, you can start by touching other parts of your body that are also sensitive. Try exploring the sensations around your breasts , your pubic area, your stomach . Immerse yourself in a relaxed atmosphere to titillate every part of your body and enjoy yourself without restraint.
Use your imagination
It's no longer a secret, the brain is the true organ of pleasure . It responds quickly to images, sounds and erotic scenarios. So you can start by watching an erotic image, a film or listening to an ethical pornographic recording, or simply remember an exciting memory. Nothing better to prepare the clitoris for pleasure!
Vibration or pulsed air: choosing the vibrator
Including a vibrator in your exploration of clitoral pleasure is a great idea. These intimate toys offer targeted and varied stimulation, perfectly suited to your sexual preferences.
You can test the classic vibration with a small accessory like our Toupie . The vibration creates a direct stimulation of the glans with more intensity and a repetition that quickly raises the temperature.
Why not treat yourself to the air-pulsed technology that has revolutionized the world of adult toys. Clitoris suckers, like our best-selling Coco , open up new horizons of sensations and trigger deep orgasms. The air-pulsed creates air waves for a softer and more targeted contactless pleasure . 🌬️
For those who are starting their vibrator collection, the Mini Coco can be ideal. Less imposing than its big brother, its role is entirely dedicated to clitoral excitement, it will bring you a good dose of well-being wherever you take it!
Using the language
For pleasure for two or more, oral stimulation is ideal! Naturally moist and soft, it is particularly effective for acting on the clitoral glans.
Your partner will only have to gently lift and spread the hood that surrounds it with his or her fingers to titillate the clitoris precisely with the tip . He or she can then use the entire surface of the tongue for a gentle effect or use his or her entire mouth to suck the glans.
Don't forget to communicate your desires and preferences for cunnilingus , as for all other practices! 💬
Positions favorable to clitoral stimulation
The 69
Manual and oral masturbation are always welcome! And the 69 position is the pinnacle of this experience, as it allows you to receive caresses with fingers and tongue and to give.
To avoid direct contact with the glans of the clitoris, you can, for example, press the lips of the vulva together and indulge in all kinds of oral caresses.
The possibilities are endless, let your inspiration run wild. ✨
The missionary
The Missionary: A reliable and often underrated classic . After all, the best soups are made in old pots, right?
You can vary the pleasures by slightly adjusting the position , such as keeping your legs together or opting for a standing version.
By squeezing the legs , whether for the man or the woman, the stimulation of the clitoris is amplified, which will considerably intensify the pleasure.
Likewise, trying standing missionary brings a new and exciting dimension to this familiar position.
Not only does it allow for deep penetration , but the eye contact and kissing add extra intensity to the experience . 🔥
The lying doggy style
While traditional doggy style isn't always the best for stimulating the clitoris, lying down doggy style is here to save the day.
Nothing could be simpler: the person lying on their stomach lets the other enter the scene from behind.
With the legs together, the natural back and forth movement perfectly tickles the clitoris , and the person lying down can also please themselves. 🎉
The scissors
A big favorite among lesbian couples, scissors offer total control over clitoral stimulation. ✂️
In this position, both partners position themselves so that their legs intertwine , creating intense clitoral friction during the back-and-forth movements.
It allows mutual stimulation of the clitoris and can be adapted according to each person's preferences to vary the angle and intensity of the friction.
The Belly Dancer
Belly dancing is an inclusive position where one partner lies on their back while the other is on top.
The partner on top can then control the movement and pressure on their partner's clitoris with their hips and rubbing.
This position provides visual intimacy and emotional connection while allowing for unparalleled clitoral stimulation.
We hope that this sex guide and our recommendations for positions will help you go even further in clitoral pleasure . Depending on your observations, you will be able to delve deeper into the sensations that turn you on the most and thus feed your sexual toolbox . We wish you a pleasurable exploration of an organ that has been taboo for too long. Giving love to your vulva is giving yourself a good dose of self-love. And it's good for your health! To go further in building a positive sexuality , go to our article dedicated to positions to explore when you're having fun alone. 🤓
