Today we are going to talk about a subject that is sometimes taboo: sexuality without penetration . You may have heard of this practice before, but perhaps you've never really explored it. Well, it's time to change that!
In this article, we're going to tell you everything about non-penetrative sex, its benefits, its different forms, and how you can explore it in your own sex life .
According to all the surveys on women's sexuality and pleasure , it seems that women attach more importance to what happens outside of penetration rather than to the act itself. Penetration is not guaranteed to provide more pleasure, while variety in sexual practices appears to play a major role in women's pleasure and attainment of orgasm.
🤔 First of all, what is sexuality without penetration?
As the name suggests, it is any form of sexuality that does not require penetration. This can include caressing, kissing, massage, oral sex, mutual masturbation, role play, and much more. There are no limits to what you can explore!
Why is it important to talk about non-penetrative sex?
Quite simply because it can help you discover new forms of pleasure and strengthen intimacy in your relationship. It can also be a safer alternative to penetration, as it reduces the chances of transmitting sexually transmitted infections.
When practicing sex without penetration, the ability to adapt and spontaneity are assets that allow you to explore and discover new things sexually. This quality is also relevant outside of the sexual context.
What are the advantages of sex without penetration? 👍
You can explore new erogenous zones, try different positions, and get to know your body and that of your partner better. It can also help build intimacy in your relationship. By taking the time to explore new forms of pleasure, you can connect more deeply with your partner and strengthen communication in your relationship. Isn't that great?
But unfortunately, there are often preconceived ideas about sex without penetration. Some people think that penetration is necessary to achieve orgasm, but that's not true!
There are many ways to feel pleasure, and everyone has their own preferences.
Other people may stigmatize certain forms of non-penetrative sex, like oral sex, but there's nothing wrong with that. Sexuality is personal, and everyone needs to explore what works for them.
Also note: Sexologists can't help but clash when it comes to clarifying the concepts of vaginal and clitoral orgasms . There is a group of scientists who believe that vaginal orgasms are indistinguishable from clitoral orgasms.
In conclusion, the myth of the existence of vaginal orgasm is unfounded and female sexual pleasure comes exclusively from stimulation of the clitoris . The only acceptable variation concerns the source of arousal, whether vaginal or clitoral.
What are the different forms that non-penetrative sex can take?
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ORAL SEX
Cunnilingus or fellatio . This can be an incredible source of pleasure for both partners, and it can also help build intimacy in your relationship.
But there are also simpler ways such as:
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the caresses,
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kisses,
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sensual massages, and more.
By exploring different erogenous zones on your partner's body, you can discover new forms of pleasure and strengthen intimacy in your relationship.
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MUTUAL MASTURBATION
Mutual masturbation is another form of non-penetrative sex, it involves both partners masturbating together and looking at each other. 👀
Indeed, it can be an incredibly erotic and intimate experience that can also help both partners better understand what works for the other.
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ROLE-PLAYING GAMES
Role play and domination/submission are also a form of non-penetrative sex with the enactment of scenarios where one partner is dominant and the other is submissive, or even erotic fantasy scenarios . Give way to your imagination!
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VIBROMASSERS
Vibrators can be a fantastic tool for exploring your sexuality without penetration, they can be used to stimulate the clitoris, nipples, perineum or any other erogenous zone of the body.
Vibrators are often used to help you achieve orgasm, but they can also be used for the mutual pleasure of you and your partner, in fact there are a wide variety of models available to suit all your preferences and needs.
Vibrating vibrators , for example, can be small and can be easily slipped between you and your partner during foreplay. Wand vibrators are larger and can be used for full-body massages.
There are also connected vibrators , which can be controlled remotely via a smartphone app, to add a dimension of play and surprise to your sexual experience.
Finally, suction vibrators , for their part, are specially designed to simulate the sensations of a mouth or a tongue on the clitoris.
Like our Coco or Mini Coco , they both have the suction function to pamper your clitoris!
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THE KUNYAZA
Kunyaza is a traditional Central African sexual practice that can be an erotic and intimate experience for you and your partner, even without penetration. This practice involves stimulation of the clitoris through rapid, repetitive movements of the erect penis, called "bamboo stroke." You can adapt this practice to non-penetrative sex by using gentle caresses, vibrators, or fingers to stimulate your clitoris . The fast, repetitive movements are meant to bring you to orgasm.
Communication, patience and respect for each partner's limits are essential for a successful experience: don't forget to discuss your desires, limits and preferences with your partner so that everyone can fully benefit from this sexual exploration.
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THE MASSAGE
Massage can be a great way to explore intimacy with your partner without needing to touch your genitals. By focusing on your partner's upper body, massaging their back and shoulders, you can create a sensual and relaxing experience. Skin-to-skin contact will help release oxytocin, the same chemical released during sex, which can strengthen the intimacy and connection between you and your partner.
To add an extra dimension, you can introduce temperature play by using warming massage oils or using ice cubes for cooler sensations! 🧊
Whatever you choose, remember to communicate with your partner and respect each other's boundaries and preferences for a sensual and pleasurable experience.
How can you approach this practice in your own sex life? 🧐
First of all, communication is essential: talk to your partner about your desires, your limits, and what turns you on, in fact, trust and consent are essential in any sexual practice. 🙂
Then, take your time and listen to your body and that of your partner. 👂 Explore new erogenous zones and find out what works for you. Remember that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to feel pleasure, and that every person is different.
Finally, don't be afraid to try new things! Try different positions , sex toys , role play , and more, you might be surprised to discover new sensations and increase intimacy in your relationship.
In conclusion, ladies, non-penetrative sex can be an incredibly erotic and intimate way to explore new forms of pleasure and build intimacy in your relationship. So, don't be afraid to explore and find out what works for you and your partner. Take your time, communicate, and have fun! 🎉