Our ultimate guide to female masturbation

What better way to open the conversation around female pleasure than to share with you our guide to female masturbation ? Because it is normal to give yourself pleasure outside of the couple, We wanted to give you some ideas to explore your power with confidence.

But above all, take the time to listen to your body, to listen to your sensations. These are the best guides to a desire and a sexuality that belong only to you. Also allow yourself to define your own codes of pleasure and to go beyond the practices proposed in this guide to female masturbation which is intended to be non-exhaustive and benevolent. We wish you wonderful explorations of your solo sexual pleasure!

Female Masturbation Guide: Getting the Conditions Right

Be curious

We are here to have a good time, discover your sexuality and surf the wave of well-being. 🌊 So we leave the pressure of orgasm at all costs on our beach towel.

Good news : a sex life can absolutely be fulfilling without orgasm!

Curiosity about your pleasure is a much better compass than the injunction to finish. Besides, aiming for orgasm at all costs can be a cause of mental block that prevents any sexual pleasure. So enjoy the present moment and explore yourself without pressure! Get the idea out of your head that without orgasm your sex life is not fulfilling.

Curiosity about pleasure also involves curiosity about your own body . Learning to know your body is the key to loving your sexuality alone or as a duo!

🪞 Why not go and meet your anatomy to take full possession of your pleasure as a woman? To do this, equip yourself with a pocket mirror to place between your legs. No more self-judgment about the appearance of your sex: just like breasts, stomachs, buttocks, women's anatomies are all different and all magnificent!

To familiarize yourself with the diversity of vulvas , we highly recommend taking a look at the account of cartoonist Hilde Atalanta.

To be lubricated

Without lubrication, the experience will be more like sandpaper against a wooden board. 😬

Every woman produces a different amount of lubricant than others and also different depending on the situation. Maybe you have already felt your sex wet without feeling particularly aroused.

The opposite is also true. We can feel arousal, but physiological lubrication is slow to come. All this is the result of various factors more or less buried deep in our unconscious. Fortunately, we can call on faithful allies to make this solo moment magical.

• your saliva
• a suitable lubricant

To want

So yes, some will tell you that appetite comes with eating, but for a session of exploring your pleasure, we recommend that you stimulate your arousal beforehand . As each woman has a different sexual profile, you can test a multitude of approaches to masturbate.

Maybe sensory stimulation is your thing? Dim the lights, put on some incense or a candle, some sexy music or an episode of VOXX .

If you're more of a visual person , why not try ethical porn like Erika Lust 's videos. We've rounded up our best recommendations for solo pleasure in this article .

If you feel like letting yourself be guided in full awareness , you can simply close your eyes, slip under a comforting duvet and let your imagination run wild.

Relaxation, focus and immersion are the key elements for a most enjoyable solo sex journey. 🎉

Masturbation Guide: Trying Different Techniques

Among the techniques most favorable to the excitement of your clitoris we have:

Kneeling on his bed

• Stand facing the bed, holding it for balance.
• Lean forward,
• Position the vibrator on the mattress
• Pace your movements according to your desires and preferences

This technique is favorable for G-spot stimulation . It is an excellent masturbation position.

In the bath

During a bath, you may feel the urge to masturbate; it is a meeting with yourself which is conducive to masturbation:

• So run yourself a bath?
• Immerse yourself in hot water.
• Take one leg out of the bath to be more comfortable.
• Then start to stimulate your clitoris, with circular or up and down movements.

You can also use a waterproof vibrator, like those from Puissante !

Masturbating standing up

Masturbating standing up can give sensations that you wouldn't experience sitting or lying down, you can start by caressing your body as well as the erogenous zones by starting with:

• the neck,
• breasts,
• the inside of the thighs,
• the buttocks
• and much more!

Indeed, these erogenous zones should not be neglected and can allow you to experience unexpected sexual sensations!

When you feel the excitement building , you can start to touch your clitoris , very gently.

The vibrator can then come into play to pamper first the clitoris and then the vagina.

Masturbating without hands?

Once in your bed, you can use what is around you: like the cushion for example! 🛌

To do this, it's very simple:

Get one or more pillows, place them between your legs, lie on your stomach and start back and forth movements, this will gently stimulate your clitoris depending on the intensity at which you move. For maximum excitement we recommend that you touch your breasts, the inside of your thighs and any other erogenous zones.

This female masturbation technique is common among young girls and women who are discovering their bodies.

What to masturbate with?

Female masturbation with fingers

There are several techniques to please yourself and make yourself come, but fingers are there with us, and all the time! 😏

Masturbation guides often talk about "inserting a finger directly into the vagina" but the clitoris and its thousands of nerve endings must be pampered, gently, the excitement must build little by little.

🧭 To begin, we invite you to locate your clitoris . Touch it gently while keeping your lips closed.

Depending on what you feel, increase or decrease the stimulation, also manage your gestures (back and forth, circles, etc.)

Once the excitement is at its peak, you can part your lips and access this area more. You can also start exploring your vagina.

Don't just stop at your genitals, you can stimulate all your erogenous zones: neck, breasts, inner thighs. Let your imagination take over, and pay attention to your sensations. 😇

Masturbation with a shower head

Showering is a time when you find yourself. Plan a relaxing atmosphere: candles, music... 🕯

Run the water at your preferred temperature, then direct the shower jet towards your vulva and manage the pressure by moving the jet closer and further away as well as changing the temperature. 🚿

This technique is very appreciated if you are starting out in the practice of masturbation; indeed it is very effective and accessible if at first you are afraid to touch yourself. The shower head will satisfy your feminine pleasure for sure!

Be careful not to let your vulva touch the shower head, this can bring germs and bacteria.

Once your session is over, clean your vulva with a suitable neutral PH soap.

Date with your pillow

For those who enjoy rubbing, you will love this technique! 🥰

Called "humping", this technique is a practice particularly used by people who have sensitive genitals. Adding a layer of clothing or stimulating a large area will allow for more muffled and therefore more pleasant sensations .

Place one or more pillows between your legs on your bed, then start to straddle it, lying on your stomach, and moving back and forth. 🎠

In this technique, it is the pelvis that does all the work! Once again, do not neglect your erogenous zones during this practice; their stimulation will only increase your sexual pleasure.

Masturbating with a chair 🪑

Have you thought about your chair? And yes, it can be a very good ally during these moments!

Get naked or in your panties on your chair, chest against the back. Arch your hips so that you can perform back and forth movements. The clitoris and vulva will benefit from gentle caresses. 🪑

Masturbating with your phone?

If you have never used a vibrator, the phone and its vibrations can replace the sex toy. Put it in vibrating mode and slide it over your clitoris; gently, then pressing according to your sensations and the intensification of desire. 📳 To explore other sensations you can use these vibrations on your breasts for example.

Masturbation with a sex toy

Did you really think we were going to end this article of female masturbation tips without talking about vibrators? Never!

A sex toy , whatever it is, is there to provide pleasure whether solo or as a couple. You have already tested all the previous masturbation techniques and you want to go further in your sexuality and feel intense pleasure? Then sex toys are made for you and we advise you to go for it!

Some focus more on stimulating the G-spot inside the vagina while others target the clit .

At Puissante, we developed Coco in 2021, which allows both penetration with different vibration intensities and with a clitoral suction mode at the same time. Since the end of 2022, the Toupie has completed our selection. It is designed to increase excitement step by step, with an emphasis on sensation rather than performance.
The goal is not to reach an orgasm in 2 seconds but to deeply feel the love that we give ourselves and the experience that unfolds. It's about taking time for yourself, getting to know yourself and refocusing on your body, your emotions and your sensations, all at a gentle pace. 😎

⚠️ Beware of the dangers that household objects pose to your privacy! How many people end up in the emergency room because of improvised sex toys?

Choose an object intended exclusively for masturbation for reasons of hygiene, safety, health and pleasure. Find our entire range of vibrators that are good for your body and for your pleasure in our online store.

How to choose the right sex toy?

The diversity of vibrators

With the variety of sex toys available to you, it can be easy to get lost in the world of vibrators.

Your desires are the starting point that guides you in choosing the ideal sex toy.

If you prefer to stimulate the outside of your clitoris, a suction clitoral simulator may be suitable for you. This vibrator allows you to stimulate your pleasure through the clitoris. Especially since among vibrators, clitoral stimulators are the option that women prefer to choose.

In case you prefer penetration , choose a vibrator with a more elongated shape. This shape of vibrator will allow you to stimulate, for example , the G-spot or to feel a sensation similar to that of a phallus.

There are different sex toy modes to reach your orgasm. Discover each of these modes.

Sucker mode

Sucker mode stimulates your clitoris: the sucking clitoral massager projects waves to stimulate it. Although the term "suction" is commonly used, your clitoris vacuum does not actually perform this action! In reality, the membrane part vibrates in such a way as to generate air pulsations, thus creating the illusion of suction. 🤩

Its tip can be made of silicone, glass or plastic. It must be placed around the glans of the clitoris.

Vibration mode

You can choose your vibrator with vibration mode or without vibration. The vibration mode can be brought with a small remote control, which allows you to change the intensities.

Two in one

You can stimulate your clitoris with a suction part and penetrate yourself at the same time with a suction part thanks to a vibrator like Coco !

Coco has been designed to fit all body shapes; it bends as you wish and you can choose to use one function after the other, or even both simultaneously.

It's understandable that you might feel a little anxious when exploring yourself, but don't be afraid to take your time and find what works for you.

There are no specific recommendations on which position to adopt, it is entirely up to you.

Changing your environment can help vary the pleasures, in fact, some vibrators are waterproof: it's not for nothing! 😊

Why should you invest in a quality vibrator?

When it comes to sex toys, it is better to pay the right price, to be sure of the quality as well as the lifespan of the latter! 💲

Quality vibrators do not pose any risk of health problems such as a risk of allergy, in fact, these sex toys are mostly made of silicone or medical glass. These are the most recommended materials for vibrators.

Sure, their price is usually above average, but these are vibrators that can guarantee your health . And that is not to be taken lightly! 🩺

Unlike low-quality sex toys, the best vibrators can last you for years!

We've gathered our best tips for finding the perfect match in this article.

You now have all the information you need to embark on one of the most beautiful explorations of your life. There are a thousand and one ways to practice female masturbation. That's why we share a ton of techniques to reach the stars on this blog. And why not try edging to increase your pleasure tenfold? 😉